Letter from Aunt Norma to Dad

One of Jim’s first jobs outside of working at the greenhouse was as a paper boy for the Fredonia Daily Herald.  His customers loved him.  Jean and I helped him fold the papers in a pinwheel shape so they’d be easier to throw.  Not only did paper boys have to fold and throw newspapers but they had to collect from their customers which required a lot of patience.  The money Jim earned from his route helped him pay for his tuition at K.U. 

I also went to K.U.  The first week or so Jim and I were on the phone a lot, mainly because I needed advice.  I remember that he even set me up with a date!  The first time that I visited K.U. before actually enrolling there, Jim took me out for dinner and ordered shrimp which I’d never tasted before.  One time when he was on break from his studies at K.U., even before I entered college, big brother Jim treated me to my first  banana split at the corner Rexall drugstore.  Jean may have been there too but that’s another fuzzy memory.

…in the call from Jean this morning, she added another memory of Jim’s antics.  The aforementioned “Three Musketeers” grabbed some bras off the clothesline back of Dennis’ mother’s house and put them on their ears like earmuffs and paraded around.  Jean said that Dennis’ mother became very, very angry.

There are many more fond memories of Jim and our family and Jean and I will continue to add more if you wish; she is blessed with a very good memory although her meds dampen her thoughts sometimes.

A couple of days ago, I read an article in the AARP magazine about Sharon Stone who suggested 8 things you should do now, one of which is “Embrace Family”.

I especially liked her thought that “you’re going to have lots of friends in your life,  but your family will be yours for a lifetime.”. My feeling also.

Jim, would you please share these memories and thoughts with your siblings.  I know you are involved with many tasks and decisions but I wanted you to have some interesting anecdotes from the past to help comfort you and your family.  If you have time please let us know what decisions have been made to help your mother as we are all very concerned and wish her the very best

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Stories of my Dad and the Glass Family

The Glass family is a two-part family:  Jim, Jean and Norma, all born a year apart.  After a 8 year span later Max and Meg appeared. 

We three older ones always did things together as our parents battled the stock market crash of ’29, job crises and the move to Kansas to rescue the grandparents from losing their greenhouse business.  Aunt Mabel, a native Chicagoan, feared for our safety as she believed that we would be killed by the Indians.

We lived in three different locations in and around Chicago.  On a visit to our Gorr grandparents on Roscoe right next to the noisy L (the elevated train) we were left to entertain ourselves so Jim thought up things for us to do.  One of the things we did was to walk up and down the street writing down house numbers which was my introduction to number systems.

Jim had lots of ideas, sometimes with a mischievous bent.  His classmates loved him and I heard stories about how he befuddled and frustrated his teachers with his questioning.  One day when  he was in junior high, which was located on the lower floor of the school building (grades 1-6 were upstairs) he caused a lot of commotion.  I heard by the grapevine that his teacher got so angry that she sent him to the principal’s office where he was beaten very badly and the noises reverberated throughout the 1 st floor classrooms. 

Jim made us laugh with the things he’d think up to do.  In church we kids always tried to sit in one of the back pews.  Sometimes he’d entertain us by catching flies.  He’d swipe his hands sideways to divert the air flow, I think.  Jim was always adept with his hands and one day in church I was surprised when he tore a piece of the bulletin and made a perfect origami bird with flapping wings.  Then he took another bit of the bulletin and make a spitball which he placed strategically in the bird and let it poop on the bulletin.  Those kinds of things always cracked us up.

Jim loved music and one time he decided to teach himself how to play the piano from a book.  We didn’t even have a piano then!  He did take up the trombone and Jean  remembers that after he’d taken up the trombone she’d sit and count for him.  Jean also remembers that he never helped us get dates like a big brother is supposed to do (we thought).

There was a neighborhood trio of junior high age boys: Jim, David (one of the preacher’s kids) and Dennis who called themselves “The Three Muskateers”.  One of their pranks was to hide in a big tree and shoot hair pins with rubber bands at unsuspecting victims, namely Jean and me.  I believe that this was the same trio that put sheet metal of some sort on the street one Halloween night and were picked up by the cops for disturbing the peace.  The cops took them to the jail and called their parents.

Jean and I shared one bedroom and Jim had his own which was locked and boobytrapped so that meddling sisters couldn’t enter.  I believe he put a “do not enter” sign on his door, too.  Jim’s bedroom was a “hands off” bedroom but I recall seeing pin-up pictures on his ceiling.  He spent hours in his bedroom with his stamp collection as well as reading the National Geographic magazines given to us by wonderful neighbors. In high school Jim and the preacher’s kid played chess for hours at a time.

Jim never dated much in high school so Jean and I were flabbergasted when he invited the most attractive and popular girl in high school to the senior prom.  Our dad ordered a gorgeous purple orchid for her corsage.

One of Jim’s first jobs outside of working for our Dad in the greenhouse, was as a paperboy for the Fredonia Daily Herald. 

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So Many Concerts, So Little Time …

As 2025 winds down, I find that I have only two concerts in Dec. That’s by design as we tend to want to take the month off for family, rest and relaxation, and enjoying the festive season. This year has been full of very nice concerts, in very nice venues. Highlights include the charity event at the Hilton Bellevue for the Sophia Way.

Highlights include the very noble cause, helping homeless women, the lovely venue, and even being fed. Now that was a nice touch.

There were some nice summer time performances too with a number of bands:

We started the year at the Rainier Club in Seattle for a swanky dance. We even had a green room, which is getting rarer to find now-a-daze. And I love it when I can pay such a big group of musicians (big band numbers) a decent wage.

So all in all, a very nice year and I didn’t even share half of the performances with other bands that Suzy and I sit in with. Here’s to an even more busy year in 2025.

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Goodnight Mom, 2025

Mom passed in her sleep one night this year. She was 93! So all of Suzy’s and my parents are gone. So much goodness in these folk, they took good care of us, insuring we were fed, educated and developing a good work ethic. I used to say that it was amazing in these times that all five of my parents kids were happily married, with college degrees, and good paying jobs. All own houses, have happy kids and that’s saying something.

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Security for Home and Identity in the 21st Century

A friend of mine had his phone hacked and most of his contacts got emergency request for money. He ended up going into the service provider’s brick and mortar as online and phone wasn’t working for him.

Here are my minimum recommendations for my besties on how to manage your info to protect you and your family. If you are a trusted family/neighbor, I can do a walk through with you. Note: you can find more info on any of these suggestions from trusted internet sites.

Passwords: Use a password service, there are many good ones out there. It can be a pain to move to one but I use the ones on my two primary browser providers.

If you don’t have an auto gen’d password, have at least 15 characters with: upper, lower, number, and symbols. Use unique ones for bank and credit cards. No pet, birth, family names should be used in passwords. Change passwords at least once a year.

ISP: change the default password on your router. There are YouTube vids to walk you through the process.

Home: Make your house look harder to break into than your neighbors.

Use video cams like Ring, security signs, motion detector spot lights, barking dog, long 2″ screws in door hardware, and lock bars for windows. Always lock the door to house whether you are leaving or staying, make it a habit.

Use a lock box for door deliveries, they are relatively inexpensive at Cosco and easy to affix to your porch. Fence in the backyard.

Wallet: don’t store your SSAN card in wallet, memorize the number. If you have cash in wallet, don’t flash your cash (as we used to tell soldiers on payday). Put $1 bills on outside of cash. Have emergency contact info in wallet.

Phone: Always have at least a 6 digit access code. Slide emergency contact info inside case. Use family locate app on fone for you and all family members.

Email: If you get email asking for money, don’t reply. If it’s an apparent emergency, call them. 100% of the time it’s a fraudulent attempt to separate you from your cash. Use a white box inbox where only family and friends email go through. Review junk periodically, I do this daily.

Identity Insurance: I use LifeLock. There are others and a number of good online reviews for the companies providing them.

Isn’t life in the 21st Century fun? Sigh …

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And then that happened…

So last night we were on our way to band practice, carpooling don’t cha know, and the car in front of us got slammed in the side by a very bad driver. I mean, I was just thinking that guy is all over the road and increasing my following distance because … well, he be crazy. And bam, he slammed into the car in front of him, hitting it obliquely in the rear, passenger-side quarter panel!

He sped up, turned to a side road, and drove away. The car limped into a nearby gas station and I pulled in behind to offer my services as a witness. OMG, it was my singer for the night, Robin! Her car was totaled and she didn’t even see who hit her.

I gave her the color, model, and first two digits of the WA license plate which she took notes on. She asked the three of us what happened, and sweet Molly hugged her to console her. Robin was shook but impressively cool.

The next thing we know another car, with people we didn’t know from Adam pulled up and they had chased down the perp, taken a fuzzy picture of the license and actually told the driver to return to the scene of the accident.

Robin called 911 and then her hubby. Based on the dangling back wheel, I’m guessing the car was totaled and Robin had a bit of back pain. As we drove on to our rehearsal, I saw a cop car monitoring for speed violators and pulled up next to him. I gave him the info and he took off to see how he could help.

Robin texted me that the cops found the perp and convinced him to come back to the scene, something he didn’t want to do. But after our hearts stopped beating wildly, I got to thinking about how fast things change. And how that could have happened to any of us. And you know what? Most humans are …. well, good humans taking care of each other.

By the way, on the way home that night, on the same street there was a massive four-car wreck. What a night.

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Do Musicians Playing for Free Take Money from Pro Musicians?

Some of us perform for little to no money, often driven by passion rather than financial gain. We play music purely for enjoyment, without the expectation of monetary compensation. We play 3 to 4 times a week but make no money, relying on our day jobs to support ourselves. Additionally, there are instances where musicians play for the love of music and to help a charity event.

There are also historical examples of musicians who did not play for money. Eden Ahbez, for example, wrote the song “Nature Boy” but chose to be homeless and may have sold the song for next to nothing. There are also musicians who have made their catalog public domain.

Community band thrive and that has never been about making money. It’s about recreating the music fraternity often found in the best of schools as we grew up. We don’t cater to huge audiences, but we are appreciated.

Still in 20+ years of running a band I have run into characters, often very talented musicians, who scorn the non-professional feeling that they steal money from the pros. I hafta say, most of the low or no pay performances my band does would never be acceptable to a professional group. So play on dear musicians, help make the world a more musical place.

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Should my Hobby Band be an LLC?

This was the best answer (from a smart friend) to another friend’s question about LLC and UBI concerns with his hobby band.

You have no requirement to collect sales tax in WA as this is a pure service, so it’s really not necessary to register with the state. They’d like you to, but it just means additional paperwork, annual filings, etc, so without a sales tax requirement, I never felt the need. An LLC is often used as legal protection, but the odds of being sued are extremely small. If you deliver a promised service, about the only risk is maybe a musician has a car accident on the way to a gig and some victim sues him and the band. Again, extremely remote and unlikely to prevail because the musicians are all independent contractors, not employees, and you do not force them to drive or drink and drive, so you’re pretty well shielded from a liability suit. Only thing I did was up my personal liability umbrella to $1M or more ‘just in case’.

Finally, don’t forget that you end up paying out 95% of the revenues to the individual contractor musicians as contract labor fees, so any profits are miniscule. I just use a Schedule C on my annual IRS tax filing to report what little income is left after expenses. You do have to keep records (I use QuickBooks) to document payments and payouts, but they are infrequent, so it’s not much work at all. You can still ‘write off’ whatever you need, but do it as a Schedule C business expense and use your SSN instead of a UBI when booking with venues. They will ask you for a W-9 so they can issue a 1099-NEC end of year. Easy-peasy.

Glad to answer any other questions, but those are the biggies. Note that I’m not a CPA, though I did spend several years working with a national CPA firm (audits & tax) and I sat for the CPA exam long ago. Passed much of it but switched back to my primary career as a software architect and DBA (minored in accounting, majored in information systems)…

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Big Band Fronts, take six

So yes, we have gone through a lot of styles of fronts. We started out with homemade fronts using picture frames, felts, and wood crates. Eventually I opted to go with purchased stands as they were much lighter and easier to carry. I do miss having my grandson help me setup the band now-a-daze.

But for the last five years we have used this one and for three different ensembles who share the Seattle Solid GOLD website. My wife ordered the sticker we use on the fronts and I found the last remaining front company from the midwest that still produces them.

They were pricey but they present well and we adapted them to all for tablet stands as we don’t use the heavy books anymore. I also overed six fronts so that I could label one specifically for my Pacifica Big Band group.

Just to make sure people walk away knowing that we are the fabulous Pacifica Big Band, we customized this one.

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Where or When

Our first performance of the year is fast approaching. If you are in Seattle on 25 Jan, peek into Third Place Commons at 7 pm for some Las Vegas style big band!

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